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Love — there are many definitions of love – but this is one of my favorite – “Love is accepting someone just the way they are without trying to change or improve them.” I completely agree – if you don’t love the person for who the are – then its not love. People do not change – so, getting into a relationship and especially considering marriage with a person that you want to change is an exercise in futility. Another one of my favorite ideas is that you should love a person – faults and all. We all have “faults” and shortcomings etc – but they are all a part of who we are as a person.

I’ve always said that the people I loved the most have always been friends first and often friends after we broke up – although not right after we broke up That leads into the main ingredients of love – they include:

1. Friendship
2. Trust
3. Respect
4. Passion
5. Communication

Something I’ve also said many times is that it is hard to love someone else and to accept their love – when you don’t love yourself. That isn’t a selfish love – but a healthy self love.

Letting go of the past is another important element of a healthy loving relationship. In order to enter into a new relationship — we have to let go of the past. We need to be brutally honest with ourselves to determine why a relationship didn’t work out – and then look for any patterns in past relationships.

There are six types of love – do you know the names and what each means? Do you know that some combinations are healthy and some are disastrous? This course outlines the full description of each type of love, which kinds of love are a good match and which ones are not — it gives new meaning to the idea that just being “in love” is enough to make a good relationship.

These are some sections in Loveology University’s Course on Love -

• Definition of Love

• Ingredients of Love

• Letting Go Of The Past

• Rejection

• Forgiveness

• Finding Everlasting Love

• Flirting

• Communicating Love

• Types of Love

• Intimacy + Passion

• Love vs. Lust

• Love Around the House

• How To Love A Woman

• How To Love A Man

• Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

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When I do interviews – one of the most popular topics is oral sex, for men and women. The funniest interview was with a man (I’ll keep his name to myself) who said he simply refuses to give his wife oral sex. However, he expect her to give him oral sex. Earlier that week, a friend sent me the link to a video about men who expect oral sex and prefer their woman swallow but they refuse to kiss her after. That is a whole other topic — but that was fresh on my mind when this host told me that. So, I gave him a very hard time about his behavior and his refusal to please his wife orally. She was in the background and it seemed that she appreciated me taking up for her

Do you want to understand more about oral sex? Do you want to learn how to give mind blowing oral sex? Does your partner want more oral sex, but you’re not confident about your skills? Then you need this study at home course from Loveology University. You will not believe the details that are included.   The course covers male and female oral sex details, some history of oral sex, and much more.

These are some of the topics in the Oral Sex Course -

• Webster’s Definition of Oral Sex, Cunnilingus & Fellatio

• What Oral Sex Is  & What Oral Sex Is Not

• Slang Words – Cunnilingus, Vagina, Fellatio & Penis

• Oral Sex Myths

• Oral Sex and Women  & Oral Sex and Men

• Getting Your Lover to Go Down

• How to Put a Condom on With Your Mouth

• Techniques for His Pleasure  & Techniques for Her Pleasure

• Tongue Workout

• Oral Sex Positions  – Male with Female, Female with Female & Male with Male

• Sexy Oral Games

• Common Oral Sex Mistakes

• Oral Sex and Your Health

• Safer Oral Sex  & Oral Sex Concerns

There is information about to clear up common myths and misconceptions about oral sex. Much detail is included about the various body parts in the genital area – their name, their location and their functions.  And of course there are plenty of tips, techniques and much more – including intructions on how to put a condom on with the mouth.

This is the official listing for the course -

This Course Is For You If:

• You want to Learn Dozens of New Oral Sex Techniques
• You want to Avoid Common Oral Sex Mistakes
• You want to Know How to Get Your Lover to Go Down on You
• You want to Discover Advanced Oral Sex Positions

For full details -

https://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=25

Sometimes actions speak louder than words, but there are times when words are important too. In a relationship, each partner wants and needs verbal assurance of their partner’s love. Saying I love you and expressing how much important your partner is to you is one of the best ways to assure your partner. So, on Valentine’s Day, lovers should not miss an great opportunity to say something nice to a person he or she loves.

You might have heard these worn out phrases:

• You are the love of my life
• You are my only true love
• I cannot live without you

But why not try some new and different. For instance, 1 Corinthians tells us that “love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not envy, it is not proud…”

If you want literary pieces, there is this quotable Shakespeare. Listed below are lines from varying literary pieces of Shakespeare:

• Love is not love that alters when alteration finds

• Love looks not with the eyes but with the mind; and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind

• All days are nights to see till I see thee, And nights bright days when dreams do show thee to me

You may prefer philosopher giants like Socrates, Aristotle and Thoreau. They too are often quoted when they describe the feeling of love.

• The hottest love has the coldest end –Socrates

• Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies –Aristotle

• There is no remedy to love but to love more –Thoreau

Religious icons such as St. Augustine and Mother Teresa have a lot to say about love.

• Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all –St. Augustine

• If you judge people, you have no time to love them –Mother Teresa

Love quotes can also be culled from novels, plays and poems like the one from Les Miserables: To love another person is to see the face of God.

Charles Dickens in one of his novels wrote, “Never close your lips to those whom you have opened your heart.” Meanwhile, Charlie Brown wrote, “Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited love.” Here are some well-known quotes from writers:

• Love is the true means by which the world is enjoyed: our love to others, and others’ love to us.” –Thomas Trahern.

• True love never dies for it is lust that fades away. Love bonds for a lifetime but lust just pushes away.” – Alicia Barnhart

• “The Eskimos have 52 words for snow because it is so special to them; there ought to be as many for love!” – Margaret Atwood

• Love reckons hours for months, and days for years; and every little absence is an age.” –John Dryden.

Indeed, these quotes are beautiful to hear on Valentine’s Day. However, lovers should not forget that you could never go wrong with real words coming from the heart.

Recently I was sharing some thoughts with a friend about what is and what is not kinky. So – I decided to open it up for more comments. I was trying to think of the sort of things that people have told me they think are kinky. I’m sure I missed plenty of activities – but I think this list is long enough to get things started – I’d love to hear your thoughts. Comments are welcome here or private message.

Here is the beginning of the list – what do you think should be added?

1. anal sex
2. oral sex for him or her
3. swallowing
4. having your genital area shaven – male and/or female
5. mammary intercourse
6. anything sexual or stimulating that involves feet
7. bondage, S & M – any BDSM
8. sex on a plane
9. sex outdoors or in public
10. sex with multi partners
11. sex in a pool or Jacuzzi
12. masturbating in front of someone else
13. plenty think masturbating is bad
14. shaving your partner’s gential area
15. sex at work
16. masturbating at work – phone sex or chatting
17. masturbating anywhere while having phone sex, chatting etc
18. having an open relationship
19. watching porn alone or with someone else
20. dating, having sex or a relationship with someone who is significantly older or younger
21. fantasy and role playing with your partner
22. golden showers
23. piercings – not your ears
24. watching others having sex
25. fetishes of any kind
26. Telephone sex
27. Sex toys
28. Licking and by this I mean full body

PS – If you want to get a glimpse into some sexual activities that are “taboo” check this video for a course that gives you full information about many of these options — http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IHS7DDFly48

Want to learn more? http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=48

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Seems to me there are an unlimited number of “rabbit” type vibrators on the market. The thumper is a rabbit vibrator and clitoral stimulator. I’ve found it interesting that the “rabbit” or clitoral stimulator is a little different is the various vibrators. You have the rabbit ears, the dolphin nose, butterfly wings, elephant trunk, eager beaver, and any other shape the manufacturers use So – here is my question ladies… What helps you decide which clitoral stimulator you want on your vibe? Here is a theory, does the type of clitoral stimulation you want — harder, softer, fluttery, etc – help you decide which vibe you’d prefer?

Okay – enough theory, let’s move on to the facts. This is a gorgeous purple toy – and everyone who reads all my reviews, knows purple is my favorite color It is a silicone toy, so it has that great smooth, luscious feel. The shaft of the vibrator is 1 1/4″ wide and 5″ long. Its not huge, but it is a nice size. There i a smooth swirl built into the shaft and the tip is tilted toward the G-spot. Yes, ladies, it has clitoral and G-spot stimulation. For people who aren’t familiar with the rotating shaft tip — you have 3 vibrations in the shaft and 4 speeds in the rotation — so many variations.

The power and vibration buttons all work very easy. When you are holding the vibrator in front of you – the lower button is for power. Push that and the lights come on – this is so handy in the dark The middle button control the shaft vibration and the top button controls the rotation of the tip.Quite a few of vibes with the rotating tip are noisy – but this unit is very quiet.

If you like dual stimulation and rabbit vibes – I think you will definitely enjoy this vibe. I always recommend being creative and experiment with the vibrator to see what works best for you. The various speeds and rotation give plenty of options to get started. If you’re playing alone or with a partner, remember that you can move the vibrator any way you want. Close your eye and think — if the rabbit ears were your fingers, how would you move them? And, have fun with it

If you’re playing with your partner – let them play with the vibrator in a variety of way to stimulate various places on your body. If you really want to experiment on yourself or your partner – you may want to turn the vibrator around. Have you used the vibrator anally and used the rabbit ears to tickle your “million dollar spot”? This can work for men or women – and the rotating tip can massage the male G-spot… Give it a try and let me know how it works for you…

Master Sexpert Tips -

• Use plenty of lube for clitoral, vaginal, G-spot or especially anal massage
• Be creative – this toy has the usual “rabbit” shape, but you can still turn it and use at slightly different angles to see which feel better for you. Let your partner try many variations (you have 6 vibrations, pulses etc to use) and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them
• Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water.
• What about using this type on your man – on his perineum (test his sensitivity), on his scrotum and on his shaft — use your imagination and watch his reactions to see if he likes it.
• Depending on the size of an anal vibrator that you or your man or woman enjoy – you could use plenty of lube and use this for anal stimulation – and wouldn’t he love that rabbit tickler on his perineum while his G-spot i being stimulated. Since you have the toy to use, you could also give him oral sex at the same time… I will mention to be sure that you use plenty of lube – the shaft is a little wider and that may be uncomfortable for some people to use anally, especially if you’re new to anal play.
• If you are a woman and you have enjoyed G-spot massage before, or if you want to try it — this is a nice toy for an intense G-spot orgasm ladies. (Don’t forget to go to the bathroom before you start.)
• G-spot tip – even though this can make it easy, you still need to know where the G-spot is located. If your partner is using their finger to massage your G-spot, they need to lay their hand with the palm up, insert their finger(s) in your vagina and reach inside a couple of inches. They need to move their forefinger in a “come hither” way and they will be very close to the G-spot. When stimulated, it feels like a small patch of corduroy – that is the area to stimulate. With this toy, you need to move it so that the “stimulator” tip reaches that spot. Even if you have to “play” to reach the right spot, you will be stimulated. If you feel like you have to go to the bathroom – you’re in the right area — don’t stop now… go for it. Now – you want to stimulate that area with the vibrator.

• For people and especially for women who are new to G-spot stimulation — it feels like you need to pee, when the G-spot is stimulated – use the bathroom before starting your exploration and stimulation. Don’t stop because of this feeling, its just an indication that you’re on the verge of sheer bliss — go with that feeling…
• Use plenty of lube (Moist Lube or Moist Gel is a great choice) for anal massage. You may prefer the gel since it is a thicker consistency, but you can try several types to see which is better for you. Click the product names for my reviews for each and a list of all the Moist varieties.
• Be creative – this toy has a great shape, so turn it and use at different angles to see which feel better for you. Let your partner try many variations and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them

Product Specs From CalExotics Site –

L’Amour™ Premium Silicone Massager – Thumper

• L’Amour™…A contemporary collection of premium Silicone intimate accessories designed to the highest standards for purity and quality
• Premium dual stimulators with 3 unique intimate teasers
• Silky smooth, triple action, multi-function massagers
• 7 functions of powerful vibration, pulsation and escalation
• 3 speeds of shaft rotation
• Easy push button controls with luminous light
• Whisper quiet
• Instant on/off button
• Silicone (massager) ABS (controller)
• 3 AAA batteries
• 5”x 1.25”/ 13 cm x 3 cm

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All aspects of our lives change and evolve over the years. We grow up, we grow mentally, physically and emotionally. And, we grow and change in our sexual behavior, expectations and so many other ways. Recently I wrote an article called Cumming of Age in Your 20?s and this is the next installment in that series.

In our 20s we experiment, spread our sexual wings and figure out some things about our sexual lives. Some people marry in their 20s while others wait till their 30s or later – that is part of our sexual journey.

Some of the things that are fairly usual for people and couples in their 30s, include:

• Experimenting with blindfolds, spanking and typing up a partner – some couples may opt to try more involved BDSM while others focus on more vanilla activities.
• Many couples hone their oral sex skills in their 30s – both giving and receiving. I would think this is a very good thing
• As women begin to get more comfortable with their sexuality – they are likely to have more orgasms
• Couples often have young children in their 30s and children can definitely disrupt or limit a couples’ sex life. It is very important for couples to put forth the effort to maintain their sex life and their time together – intimate or otherwise – for the health of their relationship.
• Many couples have had sex outdoors by their 30s – maybe in a car, in a secluded spot or possibly in their yard. There are many options – have you had sex outdoors?
• Straight women are likely to have gay male friends. Funny, I was having that conversation with a 16 year old female friend today and she totally agreed about having gay male friends. From what I’ve read, there is a definite symmetry between the minds of straight women and gay men, so it makes sense that they are friends.

These are only a few of the thing that may be true about your sex life in your 30s. What are some ways you care to share?

Whether you have your first sexual experiences in your teens or 20s, its likely that many people will experiment in their 20s. Maybe its because most people move out of their parents house in their 20s. Many other people are in college in their 20s and that can be a great time to experiment and test the limits of your sexuality. Even for the young men and women who had parents who let them do what they wanted in their teens, there is still something stimulating and liberating about being in your 20s – being an adult.

Our perspective and attitude about sex will likely change depending on our personal situation and our age. Some activities are more common in our 20s, 30s or 40s.

What are some of the things you tried in your late teens or your 20s? Here are a few examples:

Thinking About Sex A Lot - For men, it seems that most men think about sex a lot. That can be triggered by seeing a hot woman, hearing a sexy voice, watching porn, seeing a centerfold, or even a stiff breeze. But seriously, most men do think of sex on a very regular basis and especially in their 20s. I think if many women are honest, they think of sex a lot too – maybe not as often as men, but its still something women definitely think about.

BiCurious and Same Sex Experimentation – When you’re young it can be a good time to experiment with the opposite sex and sometimes with the same gender. I’ve heard all kinds of stories about people experimenting in college or at parties when they are young. Even if you know that you’re straight, you may just be curious. What would it be like to kiss and maybe make out with another woman? What would it be like to kiss another guy? Your 20s, may be the time you decide to see what its like. Another time can be after being in a marriage for years and then wondering what you missed by being straight.

NSA and Friends with Benefits – Your 20s can also be a great time for no strings attached sex and friends with benefits. You may feel you’re too young to be married or you just aren’t ready to be married, but you still want to have sex – and these are two option that men and women chose, while they are looking for that special someone or while they want to stay single.

Various Sexual Positions - Your 20s can also be a great time to try a wide variety of sexual positions. You are young, full of energy and likely more limber and flexible than you will be in the 30s, 40s and beyond. This could be a great time to try different types of sex and different positions. See what appeals to you and what you like with a partner. Your preferences could change as you get older and with different partners, but that’s all right. You keep things interesting and you can keep discovering new things that you enjoy.

Threesomes and Moresomes – Most men and many women have thought about or fantasized about being in a threesome or other group sex. You may feel your 20s are a great time to experiment with sex with multiple partners. A threesome or other group sex can be more enjoyable and less emotional when you aren’t in a relationship – so your 20s could be a great time to try sex with a man and a woman, two men or two women. This is an article I wrote for couples considering a threesome and this is an article I wrote for an individual considering a threesome with a couple.  Both include important things you should consider before having a threesome.

Sex with An Older Partner – For people in their 20s with limited sexual experiences or who are very curious, they may want to have sex with an older man or woman. An older partner will likely have more experience and can teach you new things. So, this could be a great time to hook up with an older man or woman. With the current mentality, it is becoming more acceptable for a younger man and an older woman to get together, so this can be a likely option for men or women.

These are just some of the activities and attitudes that can be normal for people having sex in their 20. What other things would you include?

There are many things to consider when you have sex for the first time and when you’re having sex at a young age. That is content for another article, but if you would like to talk about concerns or question, feel free to click the “contact me” button on the left side of the page or email me at lovecoachjourney@gmail.com

The We-Vibe is a very interesting and unique sex toy. When you first look at it – it may seem strange, but when you understand how it works — it makes perfect sense.

Imagine a sex toy that the woman “wears” and that can vibrate for the man and the woman during intercourse. I have your attention now don’t I? That is how the We Vibe works. Notice there are two ends to it. One end stimulates the clitoris and the other end stimulates the g-spot. So – both spots are being stimulated at once.

And, it is very thin – so you can have sex while you wear the We Vibe. Men – imagine you are making love to your partner and you get to enjoy being inside her and you get a vibrating vagina. Tell me that doesn’t sound good.

This diagram shows how the We Vibe should be worn.

Now – my thoughts -

This is not cheap – but it is a high quality vibrator. The on/off switch is built into the tip of the We Vibe, when you look close there are two “dimples” – push there to turn it on and off. When its wet – this can be a little tricky, but it is possible. The first time I plugged it in to charge it – it was a little tricky, because the recharge opening is hidden very well. But again, a little work and I had it charging just fine.

I wanted to figure it out before sharing it with anyone. So, I inserted the one end so that it was on my g-spot and placed the other on my clitoris — and it felt good right away. Even on high, it isn’t a hard vibration, but a nice steady pulse and of course, vibrating both spots at once is very nice.

I remembered that the website said it can be worn while you’re out. I was going grocery shopping that afternoon and I did notice that the We Vibe is very quiet – so I figured why not give it a try. But I knew that I couldn’t easily turn it off in the store – so for better or worse, I had to commit to the outing with the We Vibe on the whole time.

I made sure it was charged before I left for the store – and I inserted the WeVibe and headed out the door – feeling good.  I was off to the store and didn’t even mind waiting at the stop lights. I will share that a slight tip of your pelvis with the We Vibe can make a great difference in how good it feels.  That was one of the most interesting trips to the grocery store that I’ve ever had. It was fun feeling the We Vibe while I was picking up my food and waiting in the check out line. I hate to shop – but this plan has definite potential.

The WeVibe is interesting and stimulating to use alone – for those times when you want to show some self love. But what would a man think? I asked a couple of friends if they were willing to test it with me — they agreed. They both enjoyed it – although I will say that it takes some practice and experimenting to get used to it. Plenty of lube is also good at first.  Test it with your partner to see how you want to incorporate the WeVibe into your time together and be creative…

So the bottom line – here are the pros and cons

Master Sexpert Tips

Pros –

• slim design and easy to insert

• no batteries or wire

• possible bigasm even when alone with the We Vibe since it stimulates the clitoris and the g-spot

• easy to recharge and long battery life

• its purple (my favorite color)

• great stimulation for man and woman during intercourse

• easy clean up

Cons –

• it isn’t cheap – but is well built and high quality

• turning it on and off can be tricky – takes a little practice

Overall – I really like the flexibility (more than just how it flexes) and I love unique items. Its a great idea that was created by a man and woman to be used by men and women.