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Flirting is a favorite activity of many men and women. But how good are you at reading his or her body language when they are flirting? Their words may say “yes” but their body language says “no”.

Flirting body language is complicated to understand and is often misinterpreted. Men flirt in different ways compared to women. How can you tell if someone is flirting with you? Does she like me? Is he interested in me? Read on for facts and tips to understand flirting signals.

Flirting Men

There are five standard body signals that indicate a man is flirting: eye contact, raising the eyebrows, giving the masculine impression, touching self, and leaning towards

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Body Language by Men

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The first sign of attraction a man gives is catching your eye. If he moves on to watch another person and doesn’t look back at you, it means that he is not interested. If he glimpses at you, looks away, and then back at you again, it is a very clear indication he is attracted to you. Sometimes, eye contact doesn’t mean anything. But, if it lasts longer, it means something is running through his mind – you. The second signal, raising the eyebrow is not a very strong indication and most of the time it is done unconsciously. It often means that he finds you interesting or sexy.

The third flirting sign is that a man squares his shoulders and tries to stand tall and straight. When sitting, his feet and legs are apart. A man also tends to hook his thumbs over his belt or through his belt loop. These actions show his masculinity, with hopes that he would acquire admiration from you.

Lastly, a man who is attracted to you tries to get closer to you or lean his body towards you. This can be done intentionally or unconsciously.

Flirting Women

Research shows that women give body language signals five to six times more than men. Women give many signs they are flirting and these are easy to spot. The most common action is preening. A woman tends to play, stroke or comb her hair and sometimes toss it over her shoulder. A strong flirting preening action is when a woman uses her lips in her flirting. Licking the lips, eating slowly, drinking with poise while having eye contact, and putting on lipstick can easily seduce a man.

Slowly crossing or stroking the legs is a clear intentional flirting action by women. She may tend to adjust her clothes to expose more skin. Playing with an object, like a glass, can be a sign she likes you. But make sure she is looking at you while doing it, otherwise it means she is not interested.

“I like You”

The general signs saying that he or she is interested in you include; smiling, longer eye contact, preening, licking the lips, raising the eyebrows, playing with the hair, looking away and then back again, leaning toward you, head slightly tilted, mirroring your actions, good posture, frequent nodding, laughing, and many more. If you spot these signs, its a great time to take the next step.

“I’m Really Not Interested”

How would you know if that quick glance did not mean anything and a connection is not happening? Watch out for these body language signals; looking away and not looking back, looking at other people, slouching, sighing loudly, passive expression, playing with an object without looking at you while you talk, dull eyes, crossing the arms, and the like.

Body language can be a strong reinforcement of messages especially during flirting, seduction, and dating. Each person has different ways to express their desires, but most of these actions have general meanings that are easy to decipher and learn. Use the tips above to get started and with practice you will become a body language expert.

Among the many emotions that man was destined to experience, it seems that love could be the best. No wonder many people want to find their own true love, hope to be happy and live a life that is full of contentment and satisfaction in spite of the many trials life has to offer.

According to some surveys, most of the people want to marry some day, the desire to marry is why they are willing to go out on dates. In the U.S. alone, nearly 53% said they have dated more than one person at the same time.

However, the concept boils down to the fact that even if dating seems to be the ideal ways to start to develop a great relationship founded on true love, it cannot be concluded that the activity is relatively easy.

Let’s start with the idea of getting a girl. Many boys are having a hard time finding the best strategy to get girls. This is because many boys have fears, especially the fear of rejection.

So for those guys who want to know how to get a girl and ask her on a date, here are five ways tips that will help you get one and have fun:

1. Develop a dazzling personality

According to some statistical reports, almost 30% of the adult population in the U.S. who are engaged into dating activities stated that the most important attribute they are looking for in a guy is his personality. That is why most girls insist his looks are not that important, because his personality is important.

If you really want to succeed in getting a girl, develop the impression that you have the best personality in the world. This can be projected through your sense of humor, confidence, and the way you carry the conversation with wit. The best way to develop that impression – is to actually take the time and effort to develop the personality, it will help you attract the girl and likely make you much happier.

2. Be cool

The key to getting a girl would be to avoid projecting an air of desperation. Even if you have not dated a girl yet, try to be cool and create an impression that you want to get the girl because you like her and not because you are in desperate need of a partner.

3. Be ready for rejections

The problem with most people, especially guys, is that their dating and relationship expectations are too high. Almost 62% of people who date have admitted that people’s probabilities and expectations are very high these days.

So, it is necessary for people to learn to face rejections, especially men, so that getting girls would be easier. Keep in mind that girls can still say no even if you have the best car, good looks, and dazzling personality.

In the cases where you were not able to get the girl you want, try to reflect on what might have caused her to reject you. As the cliché says – there are other fish in the sea. In other words, there are other girls out there and evidently the girls that turned you down, weren’t right for you.

4. Consider Why She Said “No”

There are many cases where a girl might say “no” for two possible reasons: one is that she does not like you, and the second reason is that she wants to go out with you but not tonight. These are two different situations that you need to clearly understand.

The problem with some guys is that they take it personally when they receive some forms of rejections. So it is better to analyze the situation and the intention behind her “NO.”

5. Be casual

The best way to get a girl is to make her feel that the date would be very casual and would not involve conventional date things or anything that would imply romantic involvement.

What matters most is for the girl to enjoy her time with you. Then if you find that the first date turns into a good relationship in the future, the memory of your first date should have been vested on good recall.

The bottom line is that guys should never make the girls feel pressured into saying “yes” every time they are being asked to go out. On a final note – make sure she will be comfortable and would feel that she will be in good hands.

These are a few of the keys to successfully getting the girl to go on a date. If you are interested in learning much more about getting ready for a successful relationship and learning to date and truly connect with a potential partner – you may want to work with a relationship and dating coach. Feel free to learn more in my ebook – Make it Happen! Discover More Love and Passion – download your free copy today.

For my initial thoughts about maintaining self-love during heartbreak and a crisis, you can find the introduction in this post — http://lovecoachjourney.com/1462/maintain-improve-love-yourself/

Remove myself from the negativity that is causing me grief. This is not always possible to do for extended periods of time as we may live or work with the cause of our heartache. But most of us can find a few moments each day to either be alone or with people who lift us up. After all most of us would rather be alone than with people who depress us.

Keep Busy. When I need to work through an issue I keep my hands busy with constructive mindless projects… cleaning out my closet, purging old clothes, rearranging my furniture or garage, gardening, baking, reading, working out, cleaning my truck, what ever it is that we can do that allows us to still think about the issue without losing our minds from idleness. This allows my mind to work through the issue and I am being progressive and distracted enough to allow my subconscious to work on the issue as I am aware that my subconscious will eventually bring the solution to my conscious state of thinking. I know getting off the couch or out of bed to do anything when we feel so heavy is almost impossible but you must get up and keep moving, doing something positive even if it only one little project per day!

Speak Positively. “I will be ok. I will get through this. Time will take care of me.

I am worthy, I just have to keep moving, keep busy.” Tell yourself, “what has happened to me is the door to a better life but I just cannot open that door yet because I am still refusing to believe it has happened and I still hurt, but I will get there, I will open that new door and allow a new way of life to present itself.”

Also we have to consciously and physically do things that will speed up the process of getting back to “normal.”

Eat or stop eating, which ever one you tend to do when you are suffering. I don’t eat which weakens the brain and body making me unable to function making my brain and body weak and I think the worst insecure thoughts when I don’t feed myself, plus I have no strength to get up. I make a conscious effort now to eat something, especially in the morning making sure my brain is fed and I think healthier thoughts with more energy.

Over eating not only adds fat to our body that we do not need, it feeds our brain with guilt and shame adding to the already self loathing we may be feeling, put the fork down and go for a walk!

Do not consume alcohol to mask the pain or do drugs that are not prescribed by your doctor. Alcohol is a depressant and will only magnify your sorrow and pathetic is what you become. Drugs will mask your pain for a minute but as soon as you sober up…the pain will have intensified because of the guilt associated with the alcohol and drug use and the vicious cycle of abuse begins. Soon you will find yourself so far down the depression chart you have no idea how to climb back up…but you can…put the bottle down and throw the drugs away…they are for happier times of celebration, which you will have and that glass of wine will taste so much sweeter.

Do not e-mail, pick up the phone to make calls or text to the person who has caused your heartache, especially if you have been drinking or doing drugs, you will only make yourself feel and appear pathetic and needy…pathetic and needy is a gross feeling which contributes to our low self esteem and we want to feel proud of our selves for getting past the moments of wanting to make contact. As each day goes by the prouder you will feel.

Do not to stay in bed or on the couch. Get up, shower, and get dressed. This will make you feel and look better to yourself. And there is no one but you who deserves to feel and look good for.

Avoid negativity. Stay close to people who lift you up! I know it is almost impossible to avoid all negativity but do your best to move away from it when you recognize it. Negative words, personalities and generally people who are always finding the worst about every situation and talking about our sorrow in a negative demeaning way only prolongs our agony….get away from them!

Talk. Don’t keep all the anxiety inside allowing it to build up, speak with at least one person who will listen, truly listen to you. It does not have to be a professional, not every one can afford professional therapy. Find that one person you can trust to tell your feelings to that is not the person who has contributed to your pain. This kind of release will help put your scattered mind back in some order. If you have no one to speak with there are community counsellors who will listen…find someone, do not try to do this by yourself, let someone know what is happening to you. I had two people who are not in my town but I call them as soon as I feel myself slipping back to being sad, they remind me of the good things in my life.

Sleep. We all need to sleep but no matter how tired our bodies are, when our minds won’t shut down sleep becomes elusive, making us more weak and vulnerable and susceptible to dis-ease. We repair our bodies and mind when we sleep. It is so easy to get our sleep patterns confused when we are suffering. Try to get up early and stay up until a reasonable time to go back to bed. Get physical to tire yourself out; this helps with the mind too! Get up when you wake up, even if it is in the middle of the night because staying in bed when you are awake allows your mind to depress you more. Get up and do something constructive, such as read a book, a craft or hobby that preoccupies your hands and mind until you are tired again.

The love we develop for ourselves. Soon you will find that time has passed and the pain has eased. The moment you realize you have turned a corner and are not so depressed or filled with anxiety, that is the moment we wish we could bottle to use in the future. Unfortunately we cannot bottle our level emotions and please understand that a smell, a photo, a name on a street sign post, an old sweater or movie will trigger memories but because we have done everything we can for ourselves to become strong again, we do not fall as far as we once did. We have developed a love for our life that was not there before the heartache and the feelings we once had of unworthiness and self loathing disappear. Today it amazes me how I want to be thankful for the heartache…I would never have developed this strength without going through it.

Continue to focus only on the positive aspects of your life, let the negative move through you without affecting you; it will pass, you will be strong and proud of yourself again….I promise!

For more information about Unfinished by Suzanne Gravelle, visit http://www.amazon.com/Unfinished-Suzanne-Gravelle/dp/192700506X and you can follow her journey on her blog – http://ontourwithsuzanne.blogspot.com.

When we are suffering a heartache, regardless of what has caused it, our minds tend to be ruled by our heart. Although we may have experienced many emotional crises in our life, each new crisis feels like the first time as each new heartache is brand new to us, we have not done this one before, it is a first. Emotions we never experienced before race through our bodies making us weak and vulnerable. We feel as if we will not make it through the day let alone the next few minutes without breaking down.

There are many stages of we must go through before we can start to accept our heart aches and move on from it and unfortunately we have no choice but to endure each stage.  These stages range from very low to extreme highs. It would be fantastic if we were able to control our emotions and skip right to recovery….but if we could do this we would not gain the wisdom or the new found strength and love we find for our selves that comes with surviving the trauma we are going through.

We swing through the emotions when they first come upon us, first we feel them, then the tears start to fall, then we start telling our selves to stop, and the next thing we know we are in a full blown emotional breakdown and we cannot, no matter how hard we try to convince our selves, we cannot stop the wave of unbelievable sadness that is moving through us.

To me, the worst parts are the self doubts and fearful feelings I cannot control.

“What’s wrong with me? What did I do? What could I have done differently to prevent this from happening?” Just a few questions we ask ourselves and the first one… “What’s wrong with me?” is the one that I had to address first.

“There is nothing wrong with me,” that is the answer. But why couldn’t I control the situation and prevent the crisis from happening? Because…we are only in control of ourselves. We make conscious decisions everyday that affect us and those we love and most of us believe they are the right decisions. When someone else is making decisions that affect us in an adverse way it is out of our control, we can only respond to their decisions and when we are in disbelief that this has happened to us it is difficult to take the steps to move on….but we must if we ever want to truly laugh again.

I felt insecure, not worthy, I devalued myself because of someone else’s decisions and I had to find a way to bring myself back to a place where I felt worthy and find a way to pick my self esteem up off the floor. This was not easy because I was emotionally beat up and bruised, but I was determined because deep down…I knew I was worth it!

So this is what I have done to help myself and continue to do.

In the next post, I’ll share my favorite tips…. here, http://lovecoachjourney.com/1468/maintain-improve-love-for-yourself/

For more information about Unfinished by Suzanne Gravelle, visit http://www.amazon.com/Unfinished-Suzanne-Gravelle/dp/192700506X and you can follow her journey on her blog – http://ontourwithsuzanne.blogspot.com.

For many years, guys and gals growing up getting their sex cues from Hollywood romances didn’t have a clue about how to kiss. That changed with more realistic kisses coming to the movies, but now the pendulum has gone beyond that point with most movie kisses looking like the two combatants are consuming each other for lunch.

This has caused more than a few folks to fail to understand how a kiss should work, and what methods might be employed to arouse the ardor in a lover with a simple kiss.

Unlike today’s movies, you shouldn’t jump into your lover’s mouth like a high-speed chase through a tunnel. Instead, build her anticipation by kissing all around her face. Begin your kiss slowly and gently with emotion and sensitivity.

First, kiss without using your tongue, slightly open mouthed, with sweet breath. Only after this initial modest kiss should you start to get serious, and only when your lover indicates that she’s ready for more (usually by using her tongue or by opening her mouth more widely to invite your tongue in).

From this point, there are a variety of ways you can continue this interplay:

• Take your lover’s bottom lip between the two of yours and suck gently.

• Trace the outline of your lover’s lips with the tip of your tongue.

• While kissing, lick you lover’s teeth with your tongue.

• To increase sexual excitement, make your kiss wet.

• Wrap your lips around your lover’s tongue and suck passionately.

• Use hot or cold liquids to create erotic sensations.

• Kissing her eyelids and ears.

The key to success in all this is to go slowly, and to keep things modest especially with the first few kisses. Be sure to follow your lover’s kissing techniques and emulate them. Little by little the two of you will learn what works best.

Then put your knowledge to good use, bringing her slowly closer to consummating your encounter.

Seems to me there are an unlimited number of “rabbit” type vibrators on the market. The thumper is a rabbit vibrator and clitoral stimulator. I’ve found it interesting that the “rabbit” or clitoral stimulator is a little different is the various vibrators. You have the rabbit ears, the dolphin nose, butterfly wings, elephant trunk, eager beaver, and any other shape the manufacturers use So – here is my question ladies… What helps you decide which clitoral stimulator you want on your vibe? Here is a theory, does the type of clitoral stimulation you want — harder, softer, fluttery, etc – help you decide which vibe you’d prefer?

Okay – enough theory, let’s move on to the facts. This is a gorgeous purple toy – and everyone who reads all my reviews, knows purple is my favorite color It is a silicone toy, so it has that great smooth, luscious feel. The shaft of the vibrator is 1 1/4″ wide and 5″ long. Its not huge, but it is a nice size. There i a smooth swirl built into the shaft and the tip is tilted toward the G-spot. Yes, ladies, it has clitoral and G-spot stimulation. For people who aren’t familiar with the rotating shaft tip — you have 3 vibrations in the shaft and 4 speeds in the rotation — so many variations.

The power and vibration buttons all work very easy. When you are holding the vibrator in front of you – the lower button is for power. Push that and the lights come on – this is so handy in the dark The middle button control the shaft vibration and the top button controls the rotation of the tip.Quite a few of vibes with the rotating tip are noisy – but this unit is very quiet.

If you like dual stimulation and rabbit vibes – I think you will definitely enjoy this vibe. I always recommend being creative and experiment with the vibrator to see what works best for you. The various speeds and rotation give plenty of options to get started. If you’re playing alone or with a partner, remember that you can move the vibrator any way you want. Close your eye and think — if the rabbit ears were your fingers, how would you move them? And, have fun with it

If you’re playing with your partner – let them play with the vibrator in a variety of way to stimulate various places on your body. If you really want to experiment on yourself or your partner – you may want to turn the vibrator around. Have you used the vibrator anally and used the rabbit ears to tickle your “million dollar spot”? This can work for men or women – and the rotating tip can massage the male G-spot… Give it a try and let me know how it works for you…

Master Sexpert Tips -

• Use plenty of lube for clitoral, vaginal, G-spot or especially anal massage
• Be creative – this toy has the usual “rabbit” shape, but you can still turn it and use at slightly different angles to see which feel better for you. Let your partner try many variations (you have 6 vibrations, pulses etc to use) and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them
• Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water.
• What about using this type on your man – on his perineum (test his sensitivity), on his scrotum and on his shaft — use your imagination and watch his reactions to see if he likes it.
• Depending on the size of an anal vibrator that you or your man or woman enjoy – you could use plenty of lube and use this for anal stimulation – and wouldn’t he love that rabbit tickler on his perineum while his G-spot i being stimulated. Since you have the toy to use, you could also give him oral sex at the same time… I will mention to be sure that you use plenty of lube – the shaft is a little wider and that may be uncomfortable for some people to use anally, especially if you’re new to anal play.
• If you are a woman and you have enjoyed G-spot massage before, or if you want to try it — this is a nice toy for an intense G-spot orgasm ladies. (Don’t forget to go to the bathroom before you start.)
• G-spot tip – even though this can make it easy, you still need to know where the G-spot is located. If your partner is using their finger to massage your G-spot, they need to lay their hand with the palm up, insert their finger(s) in your vagina and reach inside a couple of inches. They need to move their forefinger in a “come hither” way and they will be very close to the G-spot. When stimulated, it feels like a small patch of corduroy – that is the area to stimulate. With this toy, you need to move it so that the “stimulator” tip reaches that spot. Even if you have to “play” to reach the right spot, you will be stimulated. If you feel like you have to go to the bathroom – you’re in the right area — don’t stop now… go for it. Now – you want to stimulate that area with the vibrator.

• For people and especially for women who are new to G-spot stimulation — it feels like you need to pee, when the G-spot is stimulated – use the bathroom before starting your exploration and stimulation. Don’t stop because of this feeling, its just an indication that you’re on the verge of sheer bliss — go with that feeling…
• Use plenty of lube (Moist Lube or Moist Gel is a great choice) for anal massage. You may prefer the gel since it is a thicker consistency, but you can try several types to see which is better for you. Click the product names for my reviews for each and a list of all the Moist varieties.
• Be creative – this toy has a great shape, so turn it and use at different angles to see which feel better for you. Let your partner try many variations and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them

Product Specs From CalExotics Site –

L’Amour™ Premium Silicone Massager – Thumper

• L’Amour™…A contemporary collection of premium Silicone intimate accessories designed to the highest standards for purity and quality
• Premium dual stimulators with 3 unique intimate teasers
• Silky smooth, triple action, multi-function massagers
• 7 functions of powerful vibration, pulsation and escalation
• 3 speeds of shaft rotation
• Easy push button controls with luminous light
• Whisper quiet
• Instant on/off button
• Silicone (massager) ABS (controller)
• 3 AAA batteries
• 5”x 1.25”/ 13 cm x 3 cm

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